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Do You Protect Yourself from Toxic Emotions?
Here's the First Step

We are often 'blind' when it comes to toxic emotions and toxic emotional messages. We consume toxic emotional words and create emotional stress without being aware of it and then wonder where all the relationship stress came from. Taking charge of your emotional life means learning to deal effectively with invitations to ingest toxic emotions.

Consider: if someone gave you a physical toxin to take in, would you ingest it? Suppose you were offered, say,

• food gone bad (yuck!)
• a serving of lead paint (yikes!)
• a glass of liquid mercury (eek!).

You'd know not to consume them, even if they were offered with all the sincerity one could possibly muster.

But we are often far more 'blind' when it comes to toxic emotions and toxic emotional messages. If we were to listen to our gut reaction, we'd probably be forewarned, but most of us have been trained out of that - we're too numb to that level of knowing, and simply consume toxic emotional words without being aware of what we’re doing, and then feel at a loss to pinpoint the causes of our emotional stresses and the sources of tension in relationships.

When someone serves us up a generous helping of guilt, blame, definitions of ourselves as being inadequate, unloving, unkind, not worth while, that we don't count, don't matter, too many of us just swallow it down like we thought it was good for us.

The very worst kind of these toxic messages are ones that, when consumed, negate the very parts of us that make us human - our emotional needs, our feelings, our desire for connection, our need for a variety of stimulation, our need to create boundaries, to be separate, to develop our own identity, to develop our own skill sets so we can make things work in our lives... these are the very worst messages.

The Emotional Development 101 classes place great emphasis on learning which messages support our humanity, taking them stage by stage to define which are nourishing and which are toxic to each part of our emotional selves.

Before you take the class, a good exercise is to make note of the kinds of messages you are actually receiving now from others, and become aware of how you're being invited to feel. An everyday example is when two people say to you, "Have a good day.' but one says it with an open smile while the other says it with clenched teeth and a locked jaw.

Allowing yourself to become aware of your gut level reaction to these and other messages you receive throughout the day is an excellent way to begin separating out what you will take in (things that support your emotional health and well-being), and things that you do not want to take in because they are toxic to your emotional self.

After all, you wouldn't eat food-gone-bad or a cocktail of lead or mercury if you were aware of it! The same is true of toxic emotional messages - becoming aware of them is the key to refusing to ingest them.

Pamela Levin is an R.N. and a Teaching and Supervising Transactional Analyst in private practice 42 years. She has taught and trained professional and lay audiences all over the world on the subjects of creating a healthier emotional life and relationships.

Pamela Levin, R.N., T.S.T.A.
August 13, 2012

You can learn all about about the emotional toxins - many of them hidden- that sabotage relationships. You'll also learn how to create a healthy emotional life for yourself and your relationships, go to http://www.emotionaldevelopment101.com

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Pamela Levin is an R.N. and a Teaching and Supervising Transactional Analyst who has been in private practice offering health improvement services for 40 years.

She has over 500 post-graduate hours of training in clinical nutrition, herbology and applied kineseology.

She has published many professional journal and lay audience articles and has an international reputation in the fields of emotional development, emotional intelligence and Transactional Analysis.

For her work in these areas, she was awarded the prestigious Eric Berne Award by members of the International Transactional Analysis Association in 72 countries.

She has lectured and trained both lay and professional audiences all over the world.

Her work is continues to be used  throughout North and South America, The UK, Europe, Asia and Australia.

She has personally researched the key emotional nutrients™ she makes available through this site.

They have consistently been demonstrated to be the core nutrients people need to feed all the six parts of their emotional selves. 

People from all cultures and languages in all parts of the world have used them since she first made them public in 1974 to feed their emotional selves, move from surviving to thriving, release limiting beliefs, improve parenting skills and more.