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 The Two Most Important 
Relationship Messages


Failure to Include Them Could
Sabotage Your Relationships and
Even Your Life

Pamela Levin, R.N., T.S.T.A, 11/5/10

sk someone if they'd rather deal with all the anguish of a relationship gone sour, which can feel like being sucker-punched in the gut, or having their heart ripped out, or being hit with a brick bat, or keeping the relationship, a lot of people might chose to keep the relationship.

That's how much it can hurt. There's all that pain of loss, and then there's also all that self-doubt and recrimination: "Where did I go wrong?","What's the matter with me?", "I'll never succeed!" and on and on.

Add to all that the fact that one relationship going bad affects so many other ones. Because you were friends with the friends of your friend, or you were included in family get-togethers because of your relationship with the person with whom you cannot-now-be-with, out of respect for them, their friends and relations now start creating distance from you. It's enough to make you want to crawl into the fetal position and suck your thumb!

The short story is, we're best off to prevent this from happening in the first place as far as we are able. Yes, your social and emotional life can work well and proceed in a positive way, especially if you don’t make these two of the most common mistakes.

While it's definitely true that the above outcome sometimes simply cannot be avoided, still, what can you do minimize the likelihood? The following are two key messages that summarize this.

Number One: Send the message to yourself (in service of your own emotional life) and to others you relate to, that it's OK to be connected, to be emotionally close, to share your true thoughts and feelings (in a kind and considerate way) both with yourself and for others to share theirs with you.

Number Two: Send the message, (again, both to yourself and to others), that it's OK to be separate, to be an individual person, to have your own wants, needs, your own life.

Whether the relationship is internal -- with yourself in your own emotional life, or external -- with someone else, together, these two messages consistently and sincerely given can neutralize these two most common reasons why emotional lives and relationships go sour.

To support you in giving and receiving these key messages, go to www.youremotionalnutrients.com and click on the free audio samples.  You can listen to them as much as you like, and in that way, experience how you feel when you take them in yourself, and also what it sounds like when someone gives them.  Doing so could save your relationship  and even your life!

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Pamela Levin is an RN and Teaching and Supervising Transactional Analyst in Private Practice 40 years. She teaches and trains therapists and lay audiences internationally.


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Pamela Levin is an R.N. and a Teaching and Supervising Transactional Analyst who has been in private practice offering health improvement services for 40 years.

She has over 500 post-graduate hours of training in clinical nutrition, herbology and applied kineseology.

She has published many professional journal and lay audience articles and has an international reputation in the fields of emotional development, emotional intelligence and Transactional Analysis.

For her work in these areas, she was awarded the prestigious Eric Berne Award by members of the International Transactional Analysis Association in 72 countries.

She has lectured and trained both lay and professional audiences all over the world.

Her work is continues to be used  throughout North and South America, The UK, Europe, Asia and Australia.

She has personally researched the key emotional nutrients™ she makes available through this site.

They have consistently been demonstrated to be the core nutrients people need to feed all the six parts of their emotional selves. 

People from all cultures and languages in all parts of the world have used them since she first made them public in 1974 to feed their emotional selves, move from surviving to thriving, release limiting beliefs, improve parenting skills and more.